Frances Young, Human Design Expert on Cyno
There are many ways to become mentally well. I would like to propose another way of saying this, ‘learning to experience the range of human emotions in a safe way’. Where I am going with this article is to explain my first hand accounts on how I have worked on my own mental and emotional health through my experiences with different types of therapy as well as my current profession as a Human Design Wellness expert.
In 2019 if you asked me to go to a talk therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist or ‘mental health coach’ I would refuse, but I have had beautiful experiences occur in my life since due to the fact that I have opened myself up to different types of mental and somatic therapies. I wouldn’t be where I am today without these tools, which has allowed me to stay off medication and be safe in feeling the range of emotions that are within the human experience.
I have done extensive somatic breathwork therapy, shamanic breathwork & energetic healing, mediumship healing, reiki, talking to a registered psychologist and hot/cold exposure to name a few widely known modalities. Each has had their purpose at a certain time or another. They are all tools in my reservoir of becoming self-aware of what emotions I am experiencing at any given time and what those emotions are trying to tell me. These tools help me navigate difficult conversations and to attract the energies and experiences I actually desire, instead of perpetuating old toxic patterns.
My most recent addition to this 5-star tool belt is my current passion, helping individuals embrace their genetic and spiritual make-up through their Human design body graph. The Human design system is a tangible outline of our body, mind and soul. Our Human design shows us our unconscious and conscious personalities, freeing an individual to explore, thrive and live their life the way they were naturally intended. Including how their own body processes, receives and interacts with their emotions as well as someone else's' and the greater collective.
The system describes an individual as either ‘emotional’ or ‘non-emotional’. An ‘emotional’ is someone who has a very distinct emotional experience that can be felt in ‘waves’. Just like the waves of the world’s oceans, there are calm seas, hurricanes and lots of currents in between. An ‘emotionals’ wave is particular to them and their body. Ultimately, their emotional waves do have certain underlying patterns and predictability.
A ‘non-emotional’ is a sponge, soaking up all of the emotions around them, they are more sensitive to emotions in their environment. Being a ‘non-emotional’ is a bit of a twisted joke, in my opinion, because they feel what an ‘emotional’ person is feeling but on an exaggerated scale. For an example: If an ‘emotional’ is feeling a 2 out of 10 of sadness about their presentation at work that didn’t go quite as planned, their partner who is a ‘non-emotional’ may feel that emotion at a 9 out of 10. There isn’t an issue with the fundamentals of how a ‘non-emotional’ feels an ‘emotionals’ experience, the problems of emotional safety arise in conversations when feelings are thrown back and forth, bringing up past experiences, childhood conditioning and simply not holding space to listen to what the other individual is saying. Emotions are felt at a greater depth by non-emotionals and understanding these different emotional experiences can improve communication and reduce conflict in relationships.
If individuals understood their loved ones, co-workers and communities human design emotional experience, then the internal judgment our minds create in difficult conversations to try to keep us safe would dissolve. The mind creates fear, but our body’s intuitive wisdom to survive is what we are designed to listen to. If we remove our stigma around how every individual experiences their emotions when they arise, then there is a clear stage to share those emotions without internal or external judgment.
If you’re wondering what type of emotional experience I have, I am a ‘non-emotional’, feeling everyone’s emotions to the greatest depth. This gives me a feeling that I am the most emotional person in the room. Making sure that I do not take on these emotions as my own is no easy task, but this is also where my tool belt comes in handy.
If you’d like to learn your human design emotional experience to help you feel safer to express your emotions at home or in the workplace, I would love to help you. Here’s to you better understanding yourself and your fearless blueprint of how you were meant to experience and communicate your emotions and passions to the world.